Moments...

Sometimes these blog posts originate from the strangest of all places. Today's thoughts were triggered by a sitcom of all things. The show is called "How I Met our Mother". Its a pretty decent show for a sitcom - told in a serial manner which advances the stories and characters week by week and its smart, witty and has a heart. Anyway, in the course tonights episode the idea of a "perfect (romanitc) moment" whose memory lasts until one is old and grey is brought up. A moment that is "unspoiled" by the next day or I guess as the show implies reality.

It sounds like a sweet idea actually, a perfect romantic moment and memories that can exist in isolation of everything else in life. Although the way one of the characters suggests as a way to keep it perfect is to not see each other again. Well needless to say that doesn't happen as they are reunited the next day after much effort by the guy.

What strikes me as odd about the idea is this. When you think about it, a moment at the same time always exists in isolation, separated by the dimension of time, unique in time and circumstance...yet it is always integrally connected to the people, and circumstances that got you to the moment in the first place. My opinion is "So WHAT!" if not everything after it is perfect. You've experienced the moment, tasted life, created a memory, and formed a bond. That can never be taken away. If something is just pure, it just is. What better way to celebrate that memory then to, take a chance and to try to create new ones?

The truth is in real life we all have memories we treasure (romantic or otherwise). Over time we may look upon them differently, romanticize them into perfect memories etc. Sometimes its the imperfections of those moments that makes them so throughly perfect anyway. So this is Derwin saying...don't fear losing the perfect moment for its time has passed anyway - just do what you can to make more of them and to treasure every single one.